Originally I designed this with green grass and more blue in the possum but Don pointed out as he looked at my tiny color composition that at sunset the colors lean far more towards purples and oranges. So I threw a bunch of orange and purple all over, with pretty orange pink and yellow highlights.
Text will go above Hippo and some more below Possum.
So! You likey too? :)
Possible Touch ups to be made:
(if you want to believe this is a perfect painting, don't read on!) Grass can be even more orange/pink/purples still, I want more dimension in Hippo's eyelid since right now it's paper thin, and Hippo's skin in the shadows is kinda boring right the way it is. The twig's (upper right corner) edges are probably a little too hard, and I can probably make all the highlights even lighter and better.
Isn't he adorable? He's my fav part of this peice. By the way, did you know possum can be spelled "Possum" or "Opossum?" Weird...
"Upside down is not for me,
and I don't like to climb you see.
Today I think that I would rather
swim and watch the fishes gather.
As I float on my backside
you're welcome to come catch a ride.
But I won't say 'You should you should!'
I'll let you choose it if you would."
Let me show you about the Relationship Pyramid my therapist taught me:
This applies to ALL relationships from neighbors to spouses to God. 100% Honesty AND 100% Commitment are the first foundational principles of a healthy relationship. Next comes Trust. Once both are established, Risk and Vulnerability happen, and the following effects are Emotional-Spiritual Intimacy where we Love and are Loved in return, finally eliciting Infinite Joy.
Now check this out. If we are like Hippo starts out, committed but not honest (saying "sure I'll climb that tree, sounds great..." or "Uh yeah, I love this movie..." "Um yeah of course I'm voting for him..." "Sure, I have a great relationship with my family how about that weather!" "I'm always happy and live a flawless life!!!") We may be 100% committed (I'm here for you!) but if we're not 100% honest, the risk and vulnerability isn't happening, thus we don't get to find out we're loved for who we are; meanwhile, we're running ourselves thin in our commitment to others. Therefore... a huge chunk of our joy is absent.
|40% Honesty/Commitment = little red triangle of Joy and large empty space of Pain.|
As most of you know, when joy is absent, there's that dark empty void. And the void for us means pain. So then what? Our brain senses pain and quickly seeks to self-soothe/avoid, often without our awareness. Addiction is the BEST way to self-soothe/avoid pain in this instance, which is why we have SOOO much addiction today. Many of us have had a void since we were children. We either never learned how to take risks and be vulnerable because our family systems didn't allow flawed imperfection - avoiding it when it was present, or some were simply abusive and taking risks wasn't safe. Or both.
There is "substance addiction," and there is also "process addiction," like:
Obsessing over OTHER people and THEIR lives in order to avoid our own...
Anything to fill the void right? Usually if we cut one out, another will fill it's place. The only way to actually heal the pain is to stop avoiding our demons, face them, feel our emotions, and take the time work and effort to resolve them with proper healthy tools (therapy, 12 Steps, connecting with Higher Power, journaling, confronting people, loving ourselves, ETC), and one of those tools AND glorious results is developing healthy relationships that involve 100% Commitment and 100% Honesty. Aka: Infinite Joy.
Parents, children learn from you. We can teach these great kiddo's by EXAMPLE that we can be vulnerable, admitting our actual feelings and imperfections, facing our demons and communicating our problems fears and weaknesses, and also teach children that they are allowed to make mistakes as well as express emotions (appropriately) and that we still love them for who they are.
Thought of the Day:
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."